Nikki’s Inbox: “Not Girly, Not Tomboy”

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Hi Nikki. While I’m getting closer to figuring out how I want to dress, I still have a hard time figuring out what suits my personality. I’m not girly, but I can’t pull off the tomboy look either. I just like being comfortable and casual. I’m a pretty quiet person. I don’t like to draw attention to myself. I don’t have a cool, girly or outgoing personality so I’m wondering how I can dress in a way that matches who I am, but isn’t frumpy and boring.

Ciara, 21/USA

I tick all those boxes too, Ciara. But with all those “don’ts” you mentioned, I don’t really know what you like specifically. Do you prefer bright colors, pastels, or simple black, white and gray? When it comes to comfortable and casual styles, do you prefer jeans and shorts? What do you wear on a regular basis? What’s your closet like? The answers to these questions are just as important in figuring out what style works best for you.

Take a look at my suggestions and see what you’re willing to try.

Crazy Prints and Patterns
As a somewhat quiet person myself, I like using humor to initiate a conversation. Why not do the same? Try wearing a top or tee with a humorous statement or whimsical print (cats are a great topic) with your regular jeans or shorts. Not only will it serve as an ice-breaker but you might also make some people smile, which is a great thing!

Experiment with one detail at a time
One of the trends for summer this year is metallics, especially for footwear. If you want to try it but are unsure of how it might work for you, go for a classic like ballet flats or something you’re more at ease with, like sneakers. The shoe doesn’t have to be metallic all over – just one part of it will do and that’s good enough. Work around that shiny detail by going for neutral tops and bottoms like gray, white or black. Once you’ve pulled that off confidently, you can go on to bigger and bolder details like neon colors, hardware accents like studs or spikes, or asymmetric hemlines, sleeves or necklines.

There’s nothing wrong with being comfy and casual
Ciara my dear, it is possible to be girly, comfy and casual at the same time, or tomboyish, comfy and casual at the same time too. You can wear a dress or a skirt and still be comfortable. If you’re not used to wearing a dress (like me), wear it with capris, leggings or skinny jeans. A mini dress that hits mid-thigh is your best choice and it matches well with the bottoms I mentioned. Even a striped T-shirt dress or polo dress will do. You can wear sandals, flats or platform sneakers.

Want to try the tomboy look? Go for a boxy fit T-shirt (not oversized – there’s a HUGE difference, okay?) or one with drop-shoulder sleeves so it looks a bit slouchy and will go well with skinny jeans. Alternatively, you can wear a slightly fitted top, like a gingham or plaid shirt, and wear with boyfriend jeans which are slightly baggy. Roll up the cuffs and wear with slip-ons or simple loafers.

These are only a few suggestions, darling, but please remember that you shouldn’t limit yourself in one category or style all the time. If you feel like wearing all red or all purple one day, go ahead! I always say that style is a personal thing because it’s always different strokes for different folks. What makes you different from me and everyone else is what makes you unique and beautiful.

Be brave, be confident and be yourself!


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