Hey Nikki! I have a big problem with choosing clothes for a wedding. It’s my boyfriend’s sister that is getting married in February next year, and I have no idea what to wear. I do not really like to wear dresses and think it will be too cold, too. I have thought about jeans and a nice top but I can never find something that can fit to a wedding. I would be so glad if you could help me get any inspiration.
Hi Michelle! I’m glad you asked about winter weddings, as I’ve addressed summer weddings but never cold-season ones. Weddings are definitely a tricky affair when choosing clothes, even if the couple is nice enough to provide a theme like cocktail, semi-formal, etc. The good thing about weddings is that they’re an excellent excuse to buy something cute that you can wear on future dates, to school dances and whatnot. So although I don’t know your measurements or even the theme of this wedding, let’s take this as an opportunity to look at the dressiest of dresses and the trendiest of trousers to give you some inspiration.
First, I have to let you know that unless explicitly stated in the invitation, jeans and tees are not okay to wear to weddings. Look at this as an opportunity to step out of your comfort zone and show off your sophisticated side, thus impressing all those around you. Also, you “think it will be cold”? Although I don’t know where you are in Sweden, a little Googling told me the average high in February in Stockholm is right around freezing. Just thinking about that gives me the shivers!
Let’s look at list of what you should and shouldn’t wear for a winter wedding:
|Tea-length dresses (just above the knee)||Low necklines/high hemlines|
|Clothes in rich jewel or earth tones||White|
|Tailored straight-leg or wide-leg pants with a textured or print top||Pantsuit|
|Natural hair and makeup||Neon or overly bright colors, whether on your clothes or face|
|Faux fur stole or capelet||Denims|
|Closed-toe pumps or flats||Sandals|
|Subtle metallic accessories or accents||Clothes that are too tight or loose|
Dresses to Impress
White is an obvious no-no and black is still considered taboo in some circles. Since this is a winter wedding, let’s lean towards jewel or earth tones. A wrap or cocktail dress is occasion-appropriate as well as flattering on most shapes. Maintain modesty with a just-above-the-knee hemline. Michelle, ma cherie, keep in mind that you are the right age to pull off dresses with an empire waist or pouf skirt, so take advantage of this while you can!
Separate your Separates
If you do decide to wear pants, my dear, make sure they are flat-front (no pleats) and that you don’t end up wearing an office-appropriate pantsuit. Offset wide-leg charcoal gray pants by pairing them with a tucked-in shimmery blouse with an unusual neckline. Create a slim silhouette with straight-leg trousers and a metallic or dark floral print blouse. Alternatively, pair a classic A-line skirt in a jewel tone, intricate brocade or jacquard with a more contemporary textured and fitted top or sweater.
Shoes for Shimmying
If you’ll be outside for any length of time (Although I sure hope not!) wear flats with a bit of sparkle on the toe cap or around the opening. Choose closed-toe pumps that have a bit of flair, like straps across the vamp or a sequined panel when inside. If you’ll be dancing, make sure they have a padded sole or platform for comfortable, easy movement. Elongate your figure in 3-inch heels – but only if you’re confident your dancing won’t turn into a tumbling routine.
Ab Fab Accessories
Fleece-lined tights are the perfect way to protect your legs if wearing a dress or to add extra insulation under your trousers. Keep your upper half warm with a classy faux fur stole or capelet, or pashmina if you’re not a fur fan. Carry your necessities in a small metallic clutch. If you feel your personality is stifled by the dressy attire, spice it up with an owl-shaped ring or chandelier or drop earrings. Do remember that less is more when it comes to accessories. To quote the great Coco Chanel, “Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and remove one accessory.”
Lastly, the photos from this wedding will be around for a long time, so when looking for an outfit, think of how it will look in ten years. You want your outfit to age well, after all. I hope this helps you get those creative juices flowing, my dear girl! Good luck and let us know what you choose. Readers, do you have any tips for Michelle? Sound off in the comments!